11 Truths About Me - The Introduction
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Dear Readers,
Welcome to my first Blog! This is new territory for me! It somewhat reminds me of a first date filled with 3 ingredients:
(1.) Formal
(2.) Awkward &
(3.) Whimsical
Actually....Scrap that. Maybe in previous relationships, the above applied, & I don’t feel like that when I’m writing either!
With age comes wisdom in the dating world. So, at age 36-ish, in my auspicious encounter with destiny…I met an incredible gentleman where, in the one hour we had together, none of the 3 points above applied that night either. Instead:
(1.) I was Myself (& so was he): interested & engaged.
(2.) There were no frills, no gimmicks: no drama.
(3.) The moment was: uplifting & magical, yet real & reverent, left with a feeling of, “What will happen next?”
Why am I sharing this? Well, this is how I hope blogging will be with you – Keenly, I will build an inspirational platform where we can discuss what is REALLY going on with our lives. Accordingly, I can provide engaging material that will lead to your growth & well-being, whilst providing a space where you can feel a sense of personal eminence.
So, having said that, I will share11 truths about me:
1.) I am a woman with my heart in the right place – always!
Why am I confidently stating “always?” For starters, genetics plays a huge role in influencing who you are. But so does one’s environment. Growing up, kindness was the main ingredient effortlessly stirring in my family home, my temple, & the schools I had attended. If you can close your eyes & imagine an ignited incense for a moment: you would probably imagine the smoke filling the air with silent aromatic blessings. Kindness filled the air in my life – it was so paramount that I still stand with pure intentions in my every action. Whatever I say or do, my intention of being loving is amidst my every breathe. Knowing your intention helps you discover if your heart is in the right place.
2.) I Love ‘Purposeful’ Writing:
Like Mozart in front of the piano, or Swami Yogananda writing his book Autobiography of a Yogi, I too, can get lost in the river of passion. One of my passions is writing. Like them, it is in every cell of me to perfect what I’m writing about – Why? It brings me utmost pleasure! Moreover, when it can be shared for the purposes of inserting some insight &/or relief for you, I know I am fulfilling my life purpose. I love inspiring others, especially women. I believe we are here on earth to peacefully evolve and help others in this common path by using our skills and passions.
3.) My main motto:
Even a smidgen of a shift is good enough towards self-growth. We have grown accustomed to being overbusy, and we need to outgrow some aspects of that. But in the meantime, accept ‘evolving one moment at a time’.
4.) Two weeks to grow:
You can expect a blog from me every two weeks. I’m a fair soul and I think it is a win-win timeframe. I get time to work on my next blog and also answer your questions. You will get time to complete fun but meaningful assignments that I will provide. Plus, I live your reality: I’m busy too! We are happiest when we can devote quality time to each “slice” of the pie in our life. I’m all about work-life ‘balance’ – (though there’s no such thing)! So I rephrase: When we choose to give attention to what matters most to us, it gives us a sense of balance.
5.) Besides God, the One Constant in My Life is My Memoir:
A diary, a journal, a memoir, they all mean the same thing. Truth be told, I have a suitcase full of memoirs, notebooks, napkins, and other types of paper keeping decades of my life-story that includes my thoughts, dreams, prayers, gratitude letters, ideas etc. So, it is of no coincidence nor is it just an attention-grabber that my blog title includes the word “Memoirs.” For those of you who know me, I have gone through some painful things, writing helped me work through those times. You also know I am a passionate visionary – I have also made many dreams of mine come true, and they all started with pen & paper. I strongly suggest you start journaling as well.
6.) MY ADDICTION in 3 Words: My-Daily-Agenda!
I am one who needs to work from a blueprint, a structured plan if you will.
I love clean, simple, pretty, yet practical lists; what can I say? This is beneficial to you because what you will find as you continue to read my blogs is that they will build on one another. I will sequentially write about how one can rekindle a relationship with themselves & evolve into a person who lives with passion, purpose & perspective. My analogy is that: we were all seeds, and if we were nourished well, we had a good chance to thrive & bloom. However, the key is to routinely nourish oneself. Just like kids, adults benefit from a structured routine.
7.) I Love Bob Marley:
I never met a person who didn’t end up swaying or nodding their heads to Marley’s song, “One Love!” I believe we are here on Earth to connect with others, more so, evolve by loving one another. I feel my life is more rewarding when I can lend a hand or an ear. Being fully present for someone helps him/her feel valued & less alone.
8.) Prioritizing Helps Me Say ‘No’ –Without Guilt:
Many women feel obligated to be agreeable. For me, it is a part of the West Indian culture to extend yourself & open your home. I always knew my parents were too nice at times–so much so, that my siblings and I knew they were being taken for a ride! It irked us to our bones. But then, guess who inherited that gene? Yes, you guessed right…. It took me many years to learn to say ‘no’…and many more years to feel comfortable saying that two letter word! Everything and the kitchen sink is thrown at us via social media –invites, community gatherings, and ‘can you be my friend’ buttons. For me, the list also includes starting up my work again (which takes waaayyy longer when you have young kids in the mix), learning the ABC’s about how to use social media for work purposes (I’m no techy either), as well as wanting to help out at my children’s school more! I’m not saying these are all bad things. On the contrary, many potential commitments and activities can be fun. But we need to draw the line somewhere, else we end up stretching ourselves – tired. What’s ironic is, for most of my life, I used to feel badly to the point where my throat would close up if I dare say ‘no.’. As many mothers know, the day we give birth, time becomes most valued. I honour being a mother, a partner, & a career woman. Saying ‘no’ becomes a must if you truly want to honor those cherished areas of your life. Today, just by saying ‘no,’ I feel lighter and can breathe better. I feel free.
9.) My Invisible Mask
I self-label myself using what society would call a ‘traditional momma’ because I put my main job on hold for 7 years – by choice, and became a full-time stay-at-home mother. Having said that, I feel it is worth mentioning that I have been in the working field since I was a teenager, and thriving in the workforce thereafter. My brain became strongly wired in joyfully partaking in all the responsibilities required of me. The reward of self-confidence from my work made me feel I was walking on air –feeling a wonderful sense of accomplishment everyday. Then, the time presented itself when I had to unravel the sense of feeling self-worth from work, and realize my self-worth in becoming a mother, something that I thought would be so easy & effortless. However, my first five years of motherhood was challenging for reasons other than being endlessly tired and experiencing brain fog. You see, I realized my ego was irritated that I wasn’t known by my work titles in the new city I lived in. It felt like my identity was erased. Being a mother wasn’t concretely acknowledged. For instance, when attending my husband’s staff functions, people will say hi to us, but I felt I got the “glaze over” look when Adrian introduced me to others. I loved to socialize so I would be the one to continue the conversation but it sure was not bi-directional. The other person never asked me about me and what I did for a living. I used to honestly think to myself, “Am I invisible?”
Then I realized, in talking to other mothers, I was not alone. I label this, “The Invisible Mask of Motherhood.” Once becoming a mother, I wondered if society valued mothers. Did others have thoughts like: It’s just putting your child to sleep; it’s just cooking; it’s just wiping the pee off the toilet seat for the 100th time. What’s so hard about that? Or was it that people struggle to think of a conversation to stir up when it comes to Motherhood. Think about it, how many times can they ask the same questions: “How are your sons?” Would they really ask or even want to know, “What did you do with your sons today?” We stay-at-home mothers are in our homes feeling invisible. Despite this feeling, the funny thing is, I still existed, we all do. I had to learn motherhood was enough, enough for ME! Whatever labels we hold, masks we wear, all make up part of our identity. We become attached to these external layers, tightly so. It takes a heck of a lot of mindful, conscious effort to detach from labels that used to form our self-worth, in order to authentically discover our true identity & accept ourselves as we are.
10.) My Marriage:
If you wanted to know what happened to the gentlemen that I had the one hour with, read below:
He called four days later… followed by two weeks of dating. We had a whirlwind romantic, magical time. I knew he was “the one” because I literally saw magnificent cherubs with flutes in the form of clouds stand out in front of the crisp, thalo blue sky above us. A year later, we got married in our cherished birth country, the Caribbean Island of Trinidad. Our sons are our miracles. 10 years later we still make many fun moments, but we also have busy moments when Adrian & I are like two passing ships. Thankfully, & through conscious effort, the undercurrent in our marriage is reliable because the authentic feelings of connection & our dialogue is key to building a strong family. It is not easy in some moments. However, they are just moments to breathe through, no matter what our boys, Adrian, or myself are experiencing. I learned in my childhood Balvikas (Vedic Sunday School) that two rocks can rub against each other for decades – filled with rough patches, but in time, if both keep to the same goal of respectful unity, it will one day evolve into a diamond.
11.) My Thoughts, My Mission:
I was born out of my mother’s womb silently studying my environment! I also was born with a skill of “metacommunicating.” My definition of metacommunication is: When I am thinking, I am thinking about what I’m thinking about.” Confused? Okay, I’ll simplify it for you by sharing how pschycentral.com succinctly defines it:
In the early 1970s, Gregory Bateson coined the term to describe the underlying messages in what we say and do. Metacommunication is all the nonverbal cues (tone of voice, body language, gestures, facial expression, etc.) that carry meaning that either enhance or disallow what we say in words.
With how my brain operates, I took that innate skill & graduated from a double major in Family Science & Psychology. But I couldn’t stop, I needed to talk with people rather than sitting behind a lab of some sort. So I completed a Masters of Education degree in Counselling Psychology to become a Clinical Psychotherapist. Later on, I became a Birth Doula, a Hatha Yoga Teacher & a Prenatal Yoga Birth Instructor. I also have a huge interest in Healing Energy so I completed my Level 1 Reiki Course, & most recently, I became a Professional Meditation Guide.
In the 1990’s, I learned from university that we all have one thing in common: ‘60,000+ plus thoughts swirling around our head, leading to feeling an array of emotions in one given day! Put that on repeat for tomorrow… and tomorrow. You get the idea. Fast forward time, 20 odd years later, meditation has become a buzz word, because scientists have finally given attention to that number & we have done something with it. You see, many of our thoughts have become harmful! The Western World has discovered that Meditation helps ease the harm, & if you practice it from time to time, but consistently, it can heal you. Yes: heal. That’s right; it is fact. To put it bluntly, Meditation is the reason I am still alive today. On that note, in time, I will share many of my tried (&-tested) life-changing healing methods. But for now, I leave you with my mission:
My mission is to empower + elevate millions of people, like you, who are tense + feel stressed for time, yet desiring great impact in their personal self-growth in mind, body & soul; I will help you redesign your life by (a.) sharing pertinent, cutting edge information from the health + well-being sectors, & (b.) teach ancient Eastern Yogic techniques, in a succinct, yet gentle manner.
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Afterall, I am here for you!
Thank you.
Love & Light,
Sareeta B.